Co-dependency and the Victim archetype (Part 3)

Cultivating forgiveness We’ve all heard incredible stories of forgiveness. Consider Nelson Mandela who forgave his captors after 27 years of imprisonment and torture. Or Gandhi, who sacrificed six years for his involvement in protesting the British colonial government in India. While these two men inspire us to forgive, it necessary to understand ‘instant and complete’ … Continue reading Co-dependency and the Victim archetype (Part 3)

Co-dependency and the Victim archetype (Part 2)

Who is in the building? Caroline Myss (2008) writes about the victim archetype in her book, Entering the Castle. She presents the two forms of the victim—the shadow and the light—in the metaphor of a building. The ground floor is dirty, unkempt, chaotic, and very much about 'survival.' When you enter the building and take … Continue reading Co-dependency and the Victim archetype (Part 2)

Co-dependency and the Victim archetype (Part 1)

“All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts.” Shakespeare was the most revelatory of writers, employing theatrical scenarios to cast light on the darker side of human nature, including victimization. His victims have in … Continue reading Co-dependency and the Victim archetype (Part 1)

Co-dependency: Staying in it with a narcissist

The term ‘narcissist’ is carelessly thrown around a lot these days, used to describe every minor instance of self-absorption. Narcissism, as psychotherapist Dr. Ross Rosenberg points out, lies along a spectrum with healthy narcissism at one end and malignant narcissism at the other. In the context of this subject, it is someone who “over-focuses on … Continue reading Co-dependency: Staying in it with a narcissist

21 clues you may be living with a narcissist

If you have a background of childhood trauma it is likely you are highly susceptible to emotional abuse courtesy of a narcissist. Daughters* of narcissistic parents, in particular, can fall prey to exploitation in adulthood because they learn at a very young age how to detect threats in the environment while responding to them in … Continue reading 21 clues you may be living with a narcissist