Have you ever had a child who made a mess and, when challenged, denies it—even if the evidence lies on his face or hands? He tells the obvious lie because he is unsure what the outcome will be. The false story is borne out of feelings of vulnerability (primarily, emotions of fear and/or shame). Codependency … Continue reading Overcoming the codependency / narcissism dynamic
© The Trauma Initiative Growing up an introvert and a twin, one other close friend was all I could handle at a given time. But, more than often, I would discover that my chosen friend had another chum and that this relationship was hugely volatile. It came down to me to be the “steady ship” … Continue reading Caretaking vs. Caregiving: Going beyond semantics
Every one of us is born with an extraordinary mind. To an extent, confidence is hardwired into us from the start. But external factors play a huge role in shaping our feelings of self worth. Therapist, Marisa Peer, tells us we alone are responsible for our own happiness; we can't give that job to someone … Continue reading Hello mind? Can we start over?
© The Trauma Initiative The term "self-care" has been thrown around a lot lately since it's become en vogue to discuss the pleasant things you do for yourself in the name of being your own best nurturer. Self-care often includes: Engaging in retail therapy.Taking a luxury holiday.Visiting a day spa.Having coffee or lunch with … Continue reading Robin Sharma: The importance of inner time
Trust. It’s a simple five letter word. It’s meaning is clear and employed the world over. There is no grey when it comes to trust. It’s as black and white as words come. Then why is it such a tough word for children impacted by developmental trauma to comprehend? All relationships begin with trust. … Continue reading Trauma vs. Trust: Who dares win?
No, these are not Samurai warriors. But there is real strength to be found in understanding these Japanese concepts originating from the Zen tradition. What exactly then is Kensho and Satori? Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, the founder of the Agape International Spiritual Centre in Los Angeles, talks about two different paths to life growth. Kensho … Continue reading Kensho vs. Satori
For many people who have journeyed through complex trauma or PTSD, the final part of the recovery is usually spiritual. Donna Eden is the founder of Eden Energy Medicine and travels the world teaching people how to heal their energy systems; to restore natural energies that have become weakened, out of balance or blocked. This is … Continue reading Using energy medicine to heal trauma
Dr. Bruce Perry is well-known for his foundational work on the potentially lasting devastation trauma can cause in the lives of young children and how “states become traits.” In other words, we all carry learnings and beliefs that are built upon our experiences. And we alone are responsible for these. Energy teacher, Jeffrey Allen, says … Continue reading Are you a thermometer or thermostat?
Why do you wake up in the morning? What energizes you to come out of bed and start the day? Or, what do you do in the morning after you wake up to put yourself in a positive mood to start the day? Many people have a difficult time waking up in the morning. Usually … Continue reading Sleep: A little death
The Summer holidays can be tough for families impacted by developmental trauma. While most families are frolicking at the beach, sunbathing, sleeping, shopping, or catching up with friends and relatives, other families may be deep in tempestuous waters. Violent outbursts, dysregulation around clothing, food, toileting, sleeping, episodes of stealing and lying, and the holiday favourite—sabotage—are … Continue reading 2019: Start with getting grounded