Overcoming the codependency / narcissism dynamic

Have you ever had a child who made a mess and, when challenged, denies it—even if the evidence lies on his face or hands? He tells the obvious lie because he is unsure what the outcome will be. The false story is borne out of feelings of vulnerability (primarily, emotions of fear and/or shame). Codependency … Continue reading Overcoming the codependency / narcissism dynamic

Robin Sharma: The importance of inner time

© The Trauma Initiative   The term "self-care" has been thrown around a lot lately since it's become en vogue to discuss the pleasant things you do for yourself in the name of being your own best nurturer. Self-care often includes: Engaging in retail therapy.Taking a luxury holiday.Visiting a day spa.Having coffee or lunch with … Continue reading Robin Sharma: The importance of inner time

Are you a thermometer or thermostat?

Dr. Bruce Perry is well-known for his foundational work on the potentially lasting devastation trauma can cause in the lives of young children and how “states become traits.” In other words, we all carry learnings and beliefs that are built upon our experiences. And we alone are responsible for these. Energy teacher, Jeffrey Allen, says … Continue reading Are you a thermometer or thermostat?

2019: Start with getting grounded

The Summer holidays can be tough for families impacted by developmental trauma. While most families are frolicking at the beach, sunbathing, sleeping, shopping, or catching up with friends and relatives, other families may be deep in tempestuous waters. Violent outbursts, dysregulation around clothing, food, toileting, sleeping, episodes of stealing and lying, and the holiday favourite—sabotage—are … Continue reading 2019: Start with getting grounded