Have you ever been in a relationship where the longer you stay in it, the more disconnected it feels? In fact, it borderlines on abuse. Over 25% of people are impacted by an Avoidant attachment adaptation. Learn to recognize the traits of an Avoidant and what you can do. What is Avoidant attachment? Amir Levine … Continue reading Attachment: Mr Unavailable AKA the Avoidant
No matter where you live in the world, when you adopt a child, strangers will spontaneously tell you how “lucky” your child is, how “incredible” you are, or how “blessed” your family will be. Let’s face it. Society places a halo on the heads of adoptive parents. But what society doesn’t know is that more … Continue reading The hidden trauma of adoption
© The Trauma Initiative Each of us are born with an extraordinary mind. As babies we brim with self-confidence and potential, but our experience and learnings influence us as we grow and mature. If you are wondering how your life got to a point where you are deeply unhappy, this is all down to what … Continue reading 3 ways to tame your mind
Caregivers often first discover their child is having problems with anger when they get sent home from school or a teacher makes contact about aggressive behaviours. In some cases, defiance presents in the home, perhaps in the form of tantrums or refusing to do simple tasks requested by parents. In many cases, the child doesn’t … Continue reading Pat Ogden: Dealing with angry children
One of the challenges of living with a child who has experienced attachment trauma is the propensity to overload the nervous system. It is so easy for them (and ourselves) to move out of what Dan Siegel calls the "window of tolerance." And when that happens, it is common to either shut down or deal … Continue reading 12 tips for dealing with anxiety
What is your response to anger: to fear it, avoid it, or express it in destructive ways that you later come to regret? Let’s face it, few of us have learnt how to have a healthy relationship with anger. (c) Pixar What is anger and its function? From an evolutionary standpoint, the role of anger … Continue reading Hello anger? Can we talk?
Have you ever had a child who made a mess and, when challenged, denies it—even if the evidence lies on his face or hands? He tells the obvious lie because he is unsure what the outcome will be. The false story is borne out of feelings of vulnerability (primarily, emotions of fear and/or shame). Codependency … Continue reading Overcoming the codependency / narcissism dynamic