Why do you wake up in the morning? What energizes you to come out of bed and start the day? Or, what do you do in the morning after you wake up to put yourself in a positive mood to start the day?
Many people have a difficult time waking up in the morning. Usually missing several alarm reminders, and sleeping longer than necessary. If you are one of these people, you will know it is often only when you recall that there is something important you must take care of or a caregiver requests action, that you stumble out of bed merely to start that day in a rush.
But you may notice that when a day is started in a rush, during the rest of the day too, that negative impulse lingers.
As a parent of a child who experienced early trauma, long have I looked for methods and reasons why starting the day for him is so difficult. He ought to be eager to wake up – because he’s a kid after all — but for some reason he doesn’t seem to remember any of the positives about the day before when another dawn breaks. In many ways, it is like waking out of mud.
Recently I stumbled upon lectures from a book named Anthroposophy by Rudolf Steiner in which he pointed out that “sleep is a little death.” This sentence intrigued me so that I looked for further explanation: “It is memory that forms the continuity between consciousness from one day to the next. […] It is the remnant of memory that persists and is transformed between incarnations.”
In other words, when we are asleep without dreaming, the world is gone; or when under anesthetics too, the world disappears. When we open our eyes, or when the anesthetics wear out and our consciousness returns, everything else is reset, apart from our memory. As we wake up, we rely on our memory to give us indication of the directions for that day.
Steiner’s brief but powerful explanation shows us that it takes time to delve into our memory and dig up our reason for being. We can speed up this process and energize ourselves quicker via a simple mechanism such as sitting down and sipping on a cup of tea. It acts in the same way as an ‘anchor’ on a web page, that takes you directly to the section you require.
Having a ‘morning ritual’ as some may call it, like this one may save your child hours in their life wandering around without purpose, staying in bed for no good reason, or being ‘stuck’ (bad-tempered or moody).
Should you create a morning practice for your child? That depends on what both of you need in the morning or what you want your life to look like. But it can help to break bad habits and start the day with the awareness that you are going to do something to change them.
>>If you want to learn more about how you can improve your mornings, check out The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.
Felicia Stewart, 2019